tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post1195783853185904845..comments2024-01-31T11:21:19.810-08:00Comments on BigAlice: Does not play well with othersBig Alicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13669587398699403481noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post-24287252125372672402007-04-04T15:23:00.000-07:002007-04-04T15:23:00.000-07:00Don't worry, you're not alone. I even have this s...Don't worry, you're not alone. I even have this sort of problem at my LYS. I've been going there for, geez, it's got to be about 4 years now. I helped move the shop a few weeks ago. Yet, I listen some of the other regulars talk about having done things together and wish they'd think to invite me. I know I should try to speak up for myself a bit more often, but I hate to impose.Zardrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10459688919362129281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post-8321342794906936662007-03-29T13:12:00.000-07:002007-03-29T13:12:00.000-07:00I understand how you feel. I am the only woman at ...I understand how you feel. I am the only woman at my company in a technical position. The other women are in HR, sales, and marketing. <BR/><BR/>I am about three and a half hours north of Portland, so I am not likely to make any readings down there, at least not on a work night. However, after reading your blog, if I ever do, we should grab a beer together.PICAdriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09938227133523019227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post-6042948406023704962007-03-27T09:38:00.000-07:002007-03-27T09:38:00.000-07:00I have been going through almost the exact same de...I have been going through almost the exact same debate with myself about attending this event. I don't know what it is, but I ain't got it. A few years ago I had a humiliating experience at an event that caused me to stop blogging for a month and shook my self-image to the core. It is at least half a myth that there is a deep and instant bond between all knitters and all knitbloggers. Setting oneself up by buying heavily into this myth is asking for a painful lesson. If you go, you may or may not find someone with whom you are simpatico. It's a risk. If you go in the right frame of mind, it won't matter what happens. If, however, like myself, you don't think you can conjure the right frame of mind, save yourself the trouble and stay away. <BR/><BR/>I'll save my thoughts on the ironic cannonization of certain knitting personages by knitters looking for creative freedom for a time when I can keep a civil tongue about the matter (i.e., never).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post-48409089353589523482007-03-27T07:44:00.000-07:002007-03-27T07:44:00.000-07:00Hi Alice! I'm a new reader.I'm dreading going to s...Hi Alice! I'm a new reader.I'm dreading going to see the Yarn Harlot next week for the same reason. I belong to the local knitting guild and I go to all the meetings. Everyone is very nice but I just don't have the 'history' with them that they have with each other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post-57603060630371334432007-03-27T07:38:00.000-07:002007-03-27T07:38:00.000-07:00Repeat after me, "Oh that's BEAUTIFUL, what yarn/s...Repeat after me, "Oh that's BEAUTIFUL, what yarn/stitch are you using? How do you like it?"<BR/>Girl, I feel the same way you do, and even had to go to a different TOWN for the last Harlot signing. I said that to someone, and she chatted at me for quite some time after that, showed me what she'd brought on her spindle, etc. It was the magic phrase. :-D<BR/>Or, you could always bring someone.<BR/>Good luck, and GO! This is one step easier than a cocktail party, because you are guaranteed to have at least one thing in common with almost everyone in the place.pacalagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12498703982601315908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post-76079666390751246482007-03-27T07:24:00.000-07:002007-03-27T07:24:00.000-07:00You should go. It's okay that it's just you. I w...You should go. It's okay that it's just you. I wish I lived nearby and we could go together! I also identify better with men, and it does cause some hangups, but you should just go with the attitude that it is a learning situation, kind of like a college seminar. You are definately good enough for anything you want to take on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16810556.post-68659746722384568232007-03-27T06:15:00.000-07:002007-03-27T06:15:00.000-07:00You are not alone. It is so hard to break into a ...You are not alone. It is so hard to break into a group. Even when you know members of the group. I was at a function last yer where I knew lots of people. But I was not one of the chosen few, and there I was hangin on the sidelines. I left. No one even noticed. At least they never asked why I left so early.<BR/><BR/>A day at the mall talking about fashion and hairstyles? I would rather poke a red hot needle in my eye!!!<BR/><BR/>Too bad you don't live closer. I would go the reading with you. And we would laugh!Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15874602954242561673noreply@blogger.com